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For many years, like most women I struggled with my body image. As a young girl I was told by many boys that I liked that if I hit puberty that they might just go out with me. I never had the fuller figure that I wanted. I was pretty much always skinny with very little shape. For years I felt insecure and that I did not measure up to other women. Images of scantily clad, fuller curved women looking “sexy” haunted me. I would get knots in my stomach passing magazine stands, looking at women on TV… I really felt inferior. It was not until I met my now husband who has only ever made me feel like I am the most beautiful woman in world that this began to change. Now…… as a more mature woman, amazing husband, brilliant kids and a passion for keeping fit that I am happy in my skin. I do not feel like I need to measure up to anyones standard of what a woman should look like.  I take my hat off to Olive Bowers at 13 she has more confidence in who she is and is willing to fight for it. What an incredible young woman Olive is, her parents must be so incredibly proud. I hope Tracks magazine take note. :)

http://www.theage.com.au/sport/olive-bowers-hits-out-at-surfer-sexism-20140329-35qei.html

Love your Sister – Feel your Boobies. Breast Cancer Awareness.

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Samuel Johnson is an Australian actor, his younger sister, mother of two Connie his battling cancer. Connie’s first  diagnosis came when she was just 11 years of age. This is Connie’s third battle, unfortunately this time is is terminal. Sam decided to raise awareness and money by riding a unicycle around Australia. This is a whopping 15,000 kms (9321 miles approx) , raising 1.6million. Sam and his sister Connie are an inspiration. 

You can read more of their story here:

http://www.loveyoursister.org/the-story

Sam and Connie now wish to raise $10 million for Cancer research. Their new campaign is “Feel your Boobies”

On their FB page they have asked for you to take a selfie with a loved one… Feeling your Boobies to raise awareness of the importance of breast self examination. Below are the instructions for your FB, Twitter or Instagram account.

 

“I put corporate Australia on notice and Money Now came forward with a pledge to pay 2 bucks for each #wegive2bucks selfie. Research costs money and thanks to Money Now, you can contribute without it costing you any money!

1) Post a pic of a loved one supporting you 
2) Like Money Now Official
3) Hashtag ‪#‎wegivetwobucks‬ you can do this on FB, without twitter or instagram)
4) Tag 2 friends
You can post it on you own wall or on the Love Your Sister Timeline”

Bullies, not just in the playground.

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“A bully is someone who is regularly overbearing. He or she looks to cause humiliation or discomfort to another, particularly if that other is weaker or smaller. This can be physical bullying, emotional bullying or mental discomfort and humiliation. It is important to understand that bullying goes beyond physical intimidation. Many people don’t realize that emotional and mental bullying can have just as many long lasting effects as physical bullying - even though the effects are of different kinds. The effects from bullying parents are no less severe.”

It seams odd, to any reasonable human being that an adult can pick on a child let alone their own child. Unfortunately it happens and more often that we give thought to. Being a parent is a blessing, not a right. As a parent it is your job to protect your child, educate and hopefully send them out into the world as a balanced functioning adult. It is not your right as a parent to belittle your child, intimidate, manipulate and humiliate them. Children are not an accessory, they are not to be taken for granted. Picking on anyone is a reflection of incredibly poor character, picking on a child is unforgivable. Physical abuse may not be involved, however emotional and mental abuse as said above is just as damaging.

It seems in the courts here in Australia that there is very little regard for emotional and mental abuse. That if there is no police record, nothing can be done. The courts seemingly care  little “about the children” and more about balanced and equal time between parents. This is all well and good when both parents have their best children’s interest at heart. Parents who despite their differences can see that the welfare of their children is paramount. What about those minorities who can not be a responsible parent, those parents who do not pay any child support to punish their ex partner, who bully and manipulate for their own gain? There does not seem to be an answer.

For those of us on the side lines watching those we love be continually harassed to breaking point all we can do is continue to love them. Continue to be there no matter the time of day.

http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/bullying-parents.html

Stress!

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In my life right now, my plate is full, the other day, I dropped my bundle and spent most of the afternoon in tears. It was a culmination of events. The irony was, it was the smallest event that tipped me over the edge. At some stage in everyone’s life, you are going to experience stress. At the time, it is all consuming, it may not let you think straight, it may make you lose your appetite, may make you eat more! It might make you not sleep, or it may not let you get out of bed. We all react differently, so what can be done to cope with stress?

1) Talk – have someone you trust listen to you, sometime just getting it off your chest helps. Having a support network will do wonders. If need be find a support group depending on what it is you are dealing with. If someone you love it incredibly ill, there may just be a support group that you can attend. Ask the nurses, they will be able to point you in the right direction. If its the breakdown of a marriage, the loss of a job people will listen. There is no reason to deal with these issues on your own.

2) Exercise! My absolute favourite. There is nothing quite like getting your endorphins running to help your body cope. Do some martial arts! Kicking the crap out of a heavy bag does wonders!

3) Make sure you are eating right – lack of nourishment is not doing your body any favours. Either over indulging or not eating at all will not help your blood pressure, making you feel even worse. Sometimes with stress you may experience diarrhoea, if you are not getting enough sustenance this will put your body under more stress. As difficult as it may be, try to eat and drink plenty of water. Stress will exacerbate other health problems, high blood pressure, skin problems, depression and insomnia.

4) Try and find a way to relax, yoga, meditation, listening to music.

5) Change the things you can, accept those you can’t. Sometimes we create our own stress, taking a step back and reflecting on ourselves – as harsh as it maybe, as much as you might not like what you see about yourself, honesty and acceptance may help you change. Those things that can not be changed, learning to accept them will go a long way in healing.